Dear Heart to Heart, Before breaking up with my ex-girlfriend of four years she would neither call nor text no matter how much airtime I gave her. In addition, she could not answer my calls or texts. I gave up and ended the relationship. But now she is blaming me for ending the relationship even when she is clearly the one who started it. In the four years, I kept telling her my likes and dislikes but all she did was what I disliked. Although I loved her so much, she did not give leave me any choice. Does this mean she wants me back? Can I take her back?
Ambrose

Ochieng Simon Peter. Why are you interested in repeating classes when the report card is showing promoted to the next class? A tree will never collect back the fallen branch, but it will continue growing other fresh ones.

Phoebe Miriam. So what are you going back to now? She has only been doing what you dislike, right? Ignore her and move on. There are so many other nice girls you can choose from instead of wasting valuable time.

Kabs Shan. Issues of the heart are hard to handle but it seems you still have feelings for her despite her wrongs. Search within your heart and see if what you feel for her is greater than what she did to you because after all is said and done the final decision is yours alone brother.

Emmanuel Keneth Watyekere. Do not risk and turn back to her. I think she encountered a challenge or hardship during the time she left you and now she wants a shoulder to lean on for comfort. But do not give her a chance just live your own life.

Murungi Fiona. What a confused heart feeling? If you do not care for any pain but rather love no matter what, then go back to her but it is you to love not her to love you back.

Tashobya Paul. You deserve better than that. Be careful before you accept. Weigh between an asset and a liability then see what weighs lighter. Sometimes it is good to follow your heart. My advice is that you should first pray and fast and God can reveal it to you because he sees unseen things.

Counsellor says
Evelyn Lufafa, Ssuubi Medical Centre

Think about what attracted her to you

DearAmbrose, this scenario is quite common among young lovers. True love does not pretend and so if your communication is not clear then there could be many unspoken words between you two. On the other hand you need to read about women psychology to get to know them better. Sometimes a statement may mean much more than an action.
In this case you have to take an informed decision and if you are taking her back, you need to do an HIV test, sit together and discuss the way forward of the relationship. Talk about the past and where you want to be. Have a more focused relationship and talk about commitment.
Think also about the qualities that attracted her to you. After doing the above, it is upon what you think and feel about the relationship that will make you either get back or quit for good.
Compiled by Beatrice Nakibuuka

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